Tag: Shake Shack

I Can’t Help Myself

I write to you from a very lovely hotel room at the Marriott in foggy San Diego this morning. My room is quite nice; I have a lovely view of the marina and harbor and a balcony, and the room is actually quite large. I am already dehydrated, which means I need to drink water today rather than Coke–which is just as well; I always have trouble sleeping when I travel and the caffeine doesn’t help very much–and have already run into some people already; some of the Queer Crime Writers, and various other crime fiction friends and writers. I am still on central time, so I woke up at four my time like always–it was two here, so of course I was terribly confused, because I’d left the bathroom light on and in my sleepy confusion I thought it was the sun and thought how did I not close the curtains last night? But after a few moments, I remembered where I was and what time it actually was and the curtains were closed.

I posted yesterday that I was trying out a new thing called Stress-Free Traveling, or something like that. Now that I know that I have anxiety, and can recognize those feelings as what they are, I can handle and control them. My flight was at one thirty, so I scheduled an eye exam in Metairie on the way for 10:20, figuring I’d be that much closer to the airport and I could still get there in plenty of time to make it through security and so forth and have lunch. The focus was on remaining calm and not getting upset at anything that was out of my control. Airports and airplanes are huge triggers for me, primarily because I worked in one for so long and I get tired of being around inconsiderate and rude people; and every time I fly it seems people’s behavior gets worse. But I remained calm. I didn’t get annoyed or fidgety in the security line; I didn’t get worked up about boarding and the line and all of that stuff. I got my lunch at Shake Shack–it was quite tasty–and the flight to Dallas wasn’t even half full so I had a whole row to myself. The flight out of Dallas was delayed for an hour because of a mechanical issue and an equipment swap (the jargon still flows naturally out of me), but it was fine. It was lovely meeting Carsen Taite at the Dallas airport, and we managed to get an empty seat between us on the flight to San Diego. I did get a bit impatient–hot, sweaty, traveling all day–at the over-long wait to get checked in, but the young woman was lovely and gave me this lovely room. I went to the Cozies and Cocktails event, which was fun, and then I went to the bar and hung out with the Queer Crime Writers, which is always delightful, and also ran into other friends, equally delightful before calling it a night and coming up to my nice, properly cold room, and slept like I do at home–deep periods of sleep interrupted by wake-ups, some of which were disorienting (it was two not four a.m.; the light was on in the bathroom so I thought the sun was up which was odd at two because I couldn’t have slept around the clock, on and on and on). But I feel rested this morning, if a bit dehydrated and hungry–part of the anxiety-free travel plan is to be good to myself and remember to eat and hydrate and give up on FOMO, which always keeps me up until late and then I can’t sleep and it just builds from there.

But these entries–if I manage to make any–will be short, most likely. I am heading downstairs to start conferencing. Talk to you soon!

(Oh! I was able to read about 150 pages of Kelly J. Ford’s The Hunt and it is marvelous.)

I’ll Be Leavin’ Alone

…on a flight to Dallas this afternoon. However, in delightful news, I am sharing the Dallas-San Diego legs of the trip in both directions with none other than the Lady H, aka Lady Hermione, aka Carsen Taite. That is always fun. I don’t have enough time changing planes in Dallas on the way out to get Whataburger on the way (I’ll get Shake Shack at New Orleans airport before I leave) but here’s hoping I can get it on the way home, because I know I will be starving by the time I get to Dallas. (I just checked; I have two hours in Dallas on the way back so Whataburger fer shur! The departure flight is at eleven something California time, so I probably won’t eat anything before boarding….unless there’s donuts or something at the San Diego airport, which I am sure there is.) It’s truly sad how excited I can get about food options that I don’t normally have access to, isn’t it?

But I am all packed and ready to head to Metairie for my eye appointment on the way to the airport. It would probably be more accurate to say I overpacked–I really don’t know why every time I go to something like this I have to take so much with me, including books–what if I run out of something to read!?!?!? Um, bitch, you’re going to a convention for mystery readers. There will be free books in my conference book bag. Books will be given away at various times over the weekend. There’s a book room and several book sellers.

But yes, by all means, Greg, weight yourself down bringing coal to Newcastle.

My supervisor and I were looking around yesterday for pictures of our old office on Frenchmen Street for a presentation she is doing at the US Conference on AIDS (she’ll leave the day I return to work), and we couldn’t find any, anywhere. I knew I probably had some in my archive of photographs on the back-up hard drive (which is horribly horribly disorganized), and so I went digging around in those files after I finished packing last night. Oh, the memories–and oh, the fucking receipts! Apparently–not really a surprise to anyone who knows me–I’ve been keeping receipts for decades. Old assholish behavior from people who should know better that I’d completely forgotten about–both the person and the behavior. Also, some people have been assholes for a very long time. Stick with what you’re good at, I guess? But yes, at some point I am going to have to organize those picture files–and there are tons of duplicates.

So.

Many.

Duplicates.

Nevertheless it was a fun way to pass an hour or so while the laundry laundered and the dishes washed in their respective machines. There are so many things I need to be better about–the picture files, for example, could be incredibly useful for inspirations and/or putting me into the mood to write a particular kind of story. I found the photo file of the pictures I used to help me visualize and write Timothy; I did do this for Mississippi River Mischief, but never took the time to look at the photos before diving into writing or trying to get the work done. It probably would have helped some, and therefore I need to remember the value of visual aids for my writing going forward. I am taking stuff with me to edit over coffee, or to muse over and/or think about; I always take my journal with me when I go to panels because people say things I want to remember later, or make me think about something I am working on, sometimes solving a puzzle I’d be trying to untangle. I love being around other writers, I really do. It’s always fun, and I get to hang around smart people and listen to them tell funny stories and laugh and be amazed that I get to know all these amazingly brilliant and smart and witty people and get to call them friends? The teenaged kid in Kansas whose house had a corn field across the street and dreamed big dreams in that bedroom with the ugly beige walls and brown shag carpeting would have slept well and gotten through life a little easier had he known his life would turn out even better than he’d ever dared to dream. I complain a lot. I whine a lot. I get irritated easily and my temper frays and flares a little more lately than I’d prefer, frankly. It’s also so, so easy to go down the dark path to depression and who cares and why bother and all that morose self-pitying nonsense that doesn’t make anything any better but certainly can make everything seem worse. But I do know how incredibly lucky and blessed I am. People also seem to think I’ve led an interesting life. I don’t think so, but it’s also all I know so it just seems normal to me. I get to write books and stories and get them published. People read them, seem to like them, and want me to write more of them. I even get nominated for awards here and there and now and again…quite a lot of times, actually.

And while it may not seem like it most of the time when I’m complaining, I’m pretty happy with my life and how it’s all turned out. I’ve also realized that I’m incredibly lucky and blessed with my writing career. I’ve been nominated for the Anthony Award seven times now–twice for Best Anthology, once for Best Short Story, once for Best Paperback/Ebook Original, twice for Best Children’s/Young Adult, and once for Best Humorous. That’s really not a bad haul, you know. I’ve also been nominated for a Lefty and an Agatha and a Shirley Jackson and a Macavity–not bad for a big old queer writer of queer books, you know? It’s also lovely seeing these mainstream awards starting to slowly recognize queer writers and our books. I also found, you see, a lot of pictures of conferences and signings and readings and book events and conferences from throughout the length of my varied and odd career. It’s been a lovely ride so far, and I really wish I would allow myself the luxury of enjoying myself and enjoying my career.

My goal for this weekend is to have as much fun as possible, hug as many people as I can, and relax and enjoy the ride as a three-time Anthony nominee. That’s pretty amazing, and something that queer teenager back in Kansas couldn’t have dared to dream.

And on that note, I am going to head into the spice mines. I need to do one more load of dishes before i depart and the kitchen will be thus clean. Have a lovely day, Constant Reader, and as always I will probably be updating social media with today’s travel shenanigans. Don’t know if or when I will be back here, but will do my best.