Tag: Pisa

Rollin’ With The Flow

Thursday morning and another lovely night’s sleep. I think the exhaustion from the excessive heat is helping me sleep better, ironically; I’m not getting much more used to it, either; it bothers me just as much as it did when we went into our insanely long streak of excessive heat advisories that I swear began in May. I’ve noticed that there aren’t Creole tomatoes in the grocery store anymore, which is bitterly disappointing; I love Creole tomatoes, and I’d have been willing to swear last year I could get them through August and into early September–but maybe the heat is killing them, I don’t know. It wouldn’t surprise me. When I lived in Kansas I remember one brutally hot summer where the corn wilted in the fields; that wasn’t pleasant. But today is my last day in the office for the week and Paul gets home on Saturday, which is marvelous and delightful and I cannot wait to see him, of course. I won’t say that I’m lonely, but last night when I got home after running errands I was just beat, you know? I didn’t write anything, either, or read. I’m afraid I went into a wormhole on-line, sitting in my chair and just scrolling through my social media feeds until I went to bed. I guess I needed the night of nothing and not thinking, so I am not going to regret the lost time last night (a whole new Greg, as you see I am being kinder to myself about these things) and while today is probably going to be a more intense day at work (my schedule is busier than it has been lately), I am caught up on everything else and everything is going smoothly. Not being fatigued or foggy in the morning helps. I think I am now officially used to this work schedule, much as I loathe it.

But do I really loathe it, or is it just the habit of a lifetime hating waking up to an alarm? I think the latter is far more likely. I always feel like I could sleep more when the alarm goes off, but lately I’m awake before the alarm goes off, and then hit snooze twice because a. the alarm is set eighteen minutes fast and b) each time I hit it, it gives me another nine minutes. So when I turn it off after the second time, it’s actually six a.m. And I am already awake.

I have some more proofing to do and am waiting for the edits for Mississippi River Mischief to arrive so I can get that out of my hair. I’ve not been particularly motivated to write this week–and have been blaming the heat for my laziness (see? doing it again)–but hopefully this weekend I will be able to get some done. I have to look for the stuff for my driver’s license today, so I can get up and go in the morning–I really don’t want to have to wait until next week when Paul is back, because the license expires on my birthday next weekend, and that’s shaving it a little close for my liking. Something always goes wrong, you know?

College football season is nigh, and while I am always excited and hopeful for a new football season (GEAUX TIGERS!), I am seeing a lot of hype about where LSU is going to be this year and how much more improvement there will be over last year. I don’t think anyone took LSU very seriously last year (the early losses to Florida State and Tennessee being directly responsible for that), and it wound up being a surprise banner year. LSU had never beaten both Auburn and Florida in away games in the same season EVER, and of course, LSU hadn’t beaten Alabama in Baton Rouge since 2010 (which is why they stormed the field, haters–no one beats Alabama regularly so whenever you do you celebrate the hell out of it. How many times has Georgia beaten Alabama this century? Once? Maybe twice? Tennessee snapped a 17 year losing streak against them last year…), so clearly they overperformed and surprised people. No one expected to see LSU in Atlanta playing for the SEC championship–and at least LSU kept the score closer than TCU did in the national title game. So the expectations are high amongst fans and sportswriters, which means the possibilities of bitter disappointment are also high. I’m just looking forward to an enjoyable season–and this season is the last one of college football as we currently know it before realignment changes everything for next season. But it’s always fun to see how the season plays out–even if LSU underperforms.

And that first season of football will take place while I am in San Diego for Bouchercon. I think LSU plays Florida State that Sunday night, and I may get home in time to catch the end of the game. The last time I was traveling during an LSU season opener was when we were flying back from Pisa and they were playing Wisconsin. I kept checking the score while we were waiting to board, and LSU was behind. When we landed in New York I checked and LSU had come from behind and won. Let’s hope that tradition holds, shall we?

And on that note I am heading into the spice mines. Y’all have a great day, and I will check in with you again later.

I’m Coming Out

So, one of the things I’ve decided to do for Pride Month is spend the entire month talking on her about, well, being a gay American and how that impacted (and continues to impact) my life every day. I have written numerous essays over the years, many of them with a very limited audience, and I’ve always had an eye to collecting them into a book, or using them to build a memoir of sorts around. But…this one I am sharing with you all this morning was very well received. I was asked to write a letter to my sixteen-year-old self, agreed to do it, and then completely forgot about it. I received a reminder email about it, which I read when checking my phone at the train station in Florence where we were waiting for the train to Venice. Horrified, I sat down in the first class car (we splurged), opened my laptop, and started writing. I reread it several times, made some edits, and then, as we were pulling into the station in Venice, I emailed it in. It went live overnight while we were in Venice, and when I checked in on-line the following day (taking the train back to Florence) I was shocked to see it had gone a bit viral (for me), being shared a lot and getting lots of likes and comments. Anyway, here it is, my letter to a sixteen year old me while on a train in Italy. (Rereading this made me laugh–as I pretended I had written it before the trip, so they wouldn’t know I waited to the last minute. For the record, I always wait till the last minute, and I also didn’t want them to know I’d forgotten about it.)

Dear Greg as a 16 year old:

I am writing to you on your birthday; our birthday, I would suppose. We have just turned 53 (I am going to henceforth refer to our disparate selves in the singular; Teen Greg as you; current self in the first person—the royal-sounding “we” sounds a bit on the pompous side). In two days, I am leaving for Italy. Italy! As a teenager, you are perhaps lying on your bed, either reading a book (if I recall correctly, that summer before your senior year you worked your way through James Michener; Centennial being the last one you read before school started) or daydreaming of being a writer, of being an adult, of getting out of Kansas, of being a success and traveling the world.

I know there are times when you wonder if you will ever leave Kansas, if your dream of being a writer will come true. I know there are times when you despaired of this; but please rest assured that on your 53rd birthday you will have published over thirty novels and fifty short stories. You will be president of the local chapter of Mystery Writers of America as well as serving a term on the national board and chairing several committees. You will have edited almost twenty anthologies, and been nominated for awards more times than you can remember—and will have even won some.

I know you think you are different from everyone else you know at your school, and in some ways you are. Your classmates will fall in love and marry, have children and watch those children grow up and marry and have children of their own. But that difference you are so ashamed of, the one you carefully hide from everyone you know and deny when confronted, is nothing you need feel shame for. I know there are nights when you lie in your bed and wonder if you will ever feel love, will ever be worthy of being loved, or whether your difference will force you to live your life, and walk your path, alone. I know that in 1977 it seems impossible not to be ashamed of who you are, and weight of that secret weighs heavily on your heart. But I can assure you that not only will the day come when you can hold your head high and shout at the top of the lungs I am a gay man, but likewise, you will find a love so pure and beautiful and remarkable that some nights before you go to sleep you will think about how lucky and blessed you are in wonder. There will be times when you are reading a book and you will look up at the man you love as he sits on the couch playing with your cat and you will be so suddenly overwhelmed with love that your eyes will fill with tears.

And several months before you turn 53, you and the man you love will decide to jointly celebrate your birthdays as well as the landmark of your nineteenth anniversary together with an eight day trip to Italy, visiting Pisa, Venice, Florence and Tuscany.

Just as you once dreamed.

As for never getting out of Kansas, you will find your true home on the day you turn 33. You will get out of a cab and step onto the cracked and tilted sidewalks of New Orleans and become overwhelmed with a sense of belonging and home. And two short years later, two weeks before you turn 35, you will move to New Orleans where you will hopefully live out the rest of a life that proved richer and more amazing than you could have ever hoped.

Yet as I write this, I realize that knowing these things lie in your future will affect the decisions and choices you make. Part of who I am now is because of the sorrows and sadness and bad choices you will make in your future. Even one different choice, one different path, will change your timeline and it is possible, even very likely, that I would not be sitting at my desk after packing for this trip to Italy writing this letter to you. I would not change my current reality for anything. I live in the city I love with the man I love doing the work I love living a life I love.

So I am glad I cannot actually let the 16 year old me know what the 53 year old me knows. I prefer to believe that writing this letter will send the positive energy back through time to give you the strength to always persevere, always survive, and always keep moving forward.

And maybe that is where my strength came from; maybe that is how I  managed to find the way to hold my head high and keep chasing my dreams.

As lovely as it would be to tell you this, that every one of your dreams will not only come true but better than you dreamed them, I am glad that I cannot.

With all my love,

Greg at 53

Almost ten years ago. Wow, that was a long time ago.

David Denies

About nine years ago or so (Lord, has it really been that long?) Paul and I got an opportunity to go visit Italy. It remains, to this day, the best trip of my life and one of the high points. We visited Pisa, Tuscany, Venice and Florence. I fell in love with Italy and once there, understood why the Renaissance happened there–the colors, the light, the beauty, everywhere you looked; I’ve never been anywhere so gorgeous and scenic in my life (and yes, I do include Hawaii in that; Hawaii was also gorgeous and scenic but in an entirely different way). And of course, we went to the Accademia della Galleria in Florence so we could view Michelangelo’s crowning achievement, the magnificent David.

To say that I was awestruck is a vast understatement.

I was also not prepared for its sheer size. Having only seen photographs before, I’d assumed it was larger than life but not that much larger (I am still surprised by how small the Hope Diamond was; sure, it’s enormous for a diamond, but I had always thought it was fist-sized, at least. It’s not. I’ve also hear the Mona Lisa isn’t very big–someday when I get to the Louvre I’ll find out), but it is fricking huge.

I’ll never forget that moment when we walked around the corner–having already examined some lovely art–and there he was.

I audibly gasped. (The unfinished sculptures along this hallway were all by Michelangelo; there were stunning because you could see how they were taking shape and how he worked, five hundred years later.)

We were also incredibly lucky because the Accademia della Galleria wasn’t very crowded, either. And because it wasn’t very crowded, we got to spend a lot of time staring and admiring him. I also, as is my wont, started wondering if the statue had come from Michelangelo’s imagination, or if he had used a model; and how amazing would it be to have been the model?

See how few people there were? I could walk all around and take his picture.

Anyway, as I was saying, I started thinking about the model. Who was he? Apparently in the 1980’s, a small sculpture was found that historians think might have been what Michelangelo have used when making the larger scale work. But we still don’t know who the model might have been. So, as I walked around, staring in sheer wonder at what human beings are capable of creating, awestruck, I kept thinking about the model.

And then I had this image of a young man, in fifteenth century attire–you know, tights and so forth–walking through the Piazza della Signoria–with all kinds of other things going on; and Michelangelo, stopping on his way to his work studio to buy bread and cheese, seeing this incredibly beautiful young man and being as awestruck as we are when we see the sculpture. I didn’t know about the smaller sculpture that people now think was the model, so I thought wouldn’t it be cool if Michelangelo had the beautiful young man pose for him for his sketchbook? And maybe he fell in love with the boy who didn’t love him back, and he painted him from one of the sketches as David and gifted it to him, and it became a legendary lost masterpiece?

And how much would that painting be worth today?

I really liked the idea.

There is, however, no question that the statue is magnificent, an incredible achievement and probably one of the greatest sculptures of all time. I mean, look at the detail on the hand, on the arms, and those veins! This was carved from marble.

It just blows me away.

And he looks different from every angle; his facial expression and pose seem to signal something different depending on where you are looking at him from.

Incredible.

The idea that a work of art as timeless and stunning and precious as Michelangelo’s David is too much for children is vile, disgusting, and indicative of the filthy minds of those who think nudity equals sin. The fact that they also use religion as an excuse to censor great art is equally disgusting; our bodies–no matter how they are shaped, how they are formed, what size and color and so forth–are, per their religion, creations of God and therefore perfect as they are. Denying that means denying God, and that seems like a very egregious sin to me; at least from what I remember of the Bible and Sunday school (all of which is etched into my brain with acid) those who denied God and His marvels didn’t do well.

It is the arts that are the foundation of civilization; it is the arts that show what wonders humanity is capable of creating, and think how dark and barren the world would be without the arts. Denying children exposure to great art is a greater abuse than anything that could ever happen at the hands of a drag queen during Story Hour.

Get your shit together, Florida. Seriously.